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success wishes and achievements and emotionally unavailable mother may show no care empathy towards the child she is physically present but emotionally she doesn t exist Then within those categories the author explains how this affects the child and how we can re learn set patterns through resilience understanding who we are making sense of our own stories through our interaction with our mothers and other key relationships controlling our feelings assess if the response to others makes sense and bring positive thoughts of managing brought forward patterns The key learning for me in this book was the Orchid gene concept as I never came across of it before and naturally I was able to relate to the concept Basically children with the orchid gene may develop depression addictions have difficult of coping or may feel aggressive Such children will have a highly active amygdala that makes them hyper vigilant to responses of others It also gives a child an edge in wider age of learning such child is attuned to other people responses feelings uick to sense emotional temperature and are usually creative reflective resilient Below are notes from the book Notes 1Emotional dilemma anger A parent may use anger to threaten or control the child show disapproval it can relate to unknown sources and unrelated frustrations A child can learn what triggers a passion but if patterns are unpredictable the child will always be on the alert 2Control this is where a parent takes control of child s live what they should think act vs advise check in on a child Control mother taken over the mind of the child criticism and commands Control result child will lie distrust mutual deception can be created The controlling parent acts as an expert what the child wants and needs are rather than learning from a child The parent acts as controller and director Enmeshment this is when a mother projects her own feelings on the child healthy mother lets her child to mentalize contextualise their own feelings4 Narcissistic mother mother doesn t see the child she demands the child to mirror on their behaviour demand admiration seeks attention they needs are the most important There is a difference between self worth vs narcissistic behaviour Child needs mothers focus and empathy but instead mother acts defensively analysis and see remarks as insult 3 Envy this is when the success of a child disturbs the relationship A parent may feel resentment towards the child s achievement or imagination Envious mother demands why she feels joy when I don t why would she feel good when I don t5 neglect freedom of movement education Mother craving dictates the mothers live Depressed mother is difficult mother as she is disengaged It s either you please me or you don t exist Emotionally unavailable mother this is usually mother s suffering depression or some addition Physically present but emotionally disengaged lack she is somewhere else How children connect and protect themselves Audit Affects of emotional unavailable mother Ex do you think a purpose of social interaction is to regulate other people feelings What lingers on your subconscious when you debating if should speak up or be uite Should you leave someone on their own Should you do what they ask Do you anxiously monitoring others responses Do you worry if they will be pleased if I do this for them Should you do what they ask even though it s inconvenient to you would they be pleased when I do this for them Will they fall apart if I forget something if I refuse to do what they ask Do you think it s your job to notice what they are feeling Do you feel you have a choice how to behave or her behavior decorates yours Do you ventilate between hope and fear as you consider the affect you have on others Do you think it s your job to notice what everyone else is feeling2 In step two weight your operating assumptions against the range of your interests desires when you interact with your mother What do you carry around with you what feels as a burden Do you have a choice how to behave around her or she dictates it f you don t follow the expectations set by your mother Do you brut over potential conseuences of your actions Do you focus anxiously on what others need Do you try to guess and provide what others need Does these actions shake my sense of identity Do I associate others happiness with my identity Is it my job to manage what other people are feeling Do I panic that I am not able to fix someone else s mood Do I consider my emotions as allian or dangerous 4 Consider how this operational assumptions dominate you Is they happiness passiveness take a centre stage of your decision process Do you feel a shift of your priorities when someone is feeling stressed or disengaged Do you desert your short or long term plants to meet the others mood 5 Identify set of behaviours guided by these assumptions A way to teach a child about their inner state is by mother presenting their feelings back to the children A man other response with an expression of interest and concern by composing herself and loving imitation of some features of child distress such as frown partly mirrors the child s state and transforms it By mirroring she shows that she just expressing her own feelings but her child s Attuning understanding that the child s feeling as their own and they are real for them mirroring mother shows child s emotion vs her own emotion seeing mirroring and understanding be a sounding board We expect who knows us and invest in our development will try to appreciate us and understand us Explain ourselves our motives and influence views of others on us When a child feels angryexpresses it to their mother and mothers response but I love you sends a message that child s feelings do not matter Mother has a narrow vision as she doesn t see the child s point of view externalising accusation when mother is projecting to the child in stuff implication is that the child s mind is not his own How a brain 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foundational relationship where mother stimulates concept of I other mothers curiosity about our experiences and emotions we become self aware Prolong difficult relationship with our mother is likely to impact our own inner world Understanding who we are making sense of our own stories are vital part of our well being Making sense of important relationships are important to make a sense of our selves his is physical and emotional as well as intellectual exerciseour thoughts about big things in our lives create strong sensations feelings infuse our view on the world Our positive thoughts are broadly in sync with our expectations when we are making ourselves clear to others we understand what is said and we understand how other persons reaction fit conversational flow we feel whole confident energised When we are mystified by shifting moods and inexplicable motives from someone we love and we can not find our footing we get emotionally seasick Do you stick to generalisation or can you see a nuance within the situation Are your stories flexible and inclusive or closed and static Do you welcome opportunity to change or resist them Can you sustain relationships with others or do you reject and feel threatened by others An you focus on the experience without avoidance confusion or changing the subject Recovered children demonstrate resilience after trial error process they don t remain stuck in the set backs they learn about their set backs they observe lessons of day to day psychology they try to manage they own actions so they do not push others away they try to control they own feelings assess if they response to others makes sense eventually they exercise their power to influence their environment They are able to leave unsafe situations lower the emotional temperature in the argument and respond positively to positive behaviour in other people With this skills they are able to build supportive relationships There is one final piece of the puzzle of our experience of difficult mother and possibility of recovery You may experienced your mother to be difficult and particular sensitive to her moods her displeasure her criticism or lack of care due to your genetic vulnerability in difficult circumstances the depression risk gene the orchid gene Resilience exercise make a list of feelings assumptions behaviours which you think resulted die to the experience with the difficult mother For each feeling assumptions and behaviour focus on steps you can take to change them Understanding how the experience with the mother made self defeating feelings habits to arise The key uestion how can you be affective in your own life Conduct autobiographical heath check relating to the experience with your mother Test your descriptions watch out for generalisations no facts Look out for expectations give specific examples of general terms you used est your ability to shift perspective can you shift it to your current world Try to notice your responses when your own 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  • Hardcover
  • 256
  • Difficult Mothers
  • Terri Apter
  • English
  • 06 May 2019
  • 9780393081022